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What can I say or do to help my child?

What can I say or do to help my child?

Helpful things you can say to your child that will support them:
  • I believe you.
  • I know it's not your fault.
  • I'm sorry this happened to you.
  • I don't know what will happen now.
  • You don't need to take care of me.
  • I am upset, but not with you.
  • I am angry at the person who did this to you.
  • You can still love someone but hate what they did to you.
  • I love you.

Helpful things you can do for your child that will support them:
  • Reassure your child that this is not their fault and you are glad they told you.
  • Listen to your child if they want to talk, but be careful not to question your child about the abuse.
  • Protect your child immediately from the person suspected of the abuse. This is to protect you, that person, and the child.
  • Help your child work with the professionals who will handle the case.
  • Keep your routine normal while providing safety, love, and support to your child.
  • Seek counseling for your child as soon as possible. Child Safe will provide a list of mental health providers in your area and can assist you with any help you may need to receive therapy.
  • Take care of yourself. You are not in this alone and Child Safe can help you find resources to meet your needs.
  • Remember to give attention to your other children.
  • The single most important factor affecting your child's recovery is the level of support from the parents or care givers. It is this simple: If you do everything you can to support your child, the chances of recovery are much greater!