What can I say or do to help my child?


Helpful things you can say to your child that will support them:
  • I believe you.
  • I know it's not your fault.
  • I'm sorry this happened to you.
  • I don't know what will happen now.
  • You don't need to take care of me.
  • I am upset, but not with you.
  • I am angry at the person who did this to you.
  • You can still love someone but hate what they did to you.
  • I love you.
Helpful things you can do for your child that will support them:
  • Reassure your child that this is not their fault and you are glad they told you.
  • Listen to your child if they want to talk, but be careful not to question your child about the abuse.
  • Protect your child immediately from the person suspected of the abuse. This is to protect you, that person, and the child.
  • Help your child work with the professionals who will handle the case.
  • Keep your routine normal while providing safety, love, and support to your child.
  • Seek counseling for your child as soon as possible. Child Safe will provide a list of mental health providers in your area and can assist you with any help you may need to receive therapy.
  • Take care of yourself. You are not in this alone and Child Safe can help you find resources to meet your needs.
  • Remember to give attention to your other children.
  • The single most important factor affecting your child's recovery is the level of support from the parents or care givers. It is this simple: If you do everything you can to support your child, the chances of recovery are much greater!

 
History of Child Safe Mission Statement Board of Directors Staff Statistics
What is Child Sexual Abuse? What are some possible signs of child sexual abuse? How offenders gain access to children Reasons why children do not tell What can I say or do to help my child? Additional facts about the dynamics of child sexual abuse How can I report the abuse of a child?